24 Oct Love And Tarot Part Two
Hi Tarot lovers, I am back talking Tarot and Love! This is part two of my series on Love and the Tarot. If you missed Love and Tarot Part 1 where I discussed the ideas of soul mates, the one and twin flames, Tarot Cards for Romantic love and Card Combinations for Lovers, you can read it here.
In this loved-up instalment I will be talking about getting out of your own way, aligning yourself for the right relationship and what are the best questions to ask the Tarot about love.
As with everything that I share, take what resonates with you and leave the rest.
Do you even know what you want in Love?
I am not talking about expectations your family have of you.
I am not talking about accepting some bullshit excuse for love because you are afraid of being alone or missing out.
I mean do you KNOW in your core what you want in love?
When it comes to love, I believe (and this is totally the witch in me talking) that we are going to manifest what we believe we are worth and what we want.
Now, I know that there are just some shitty things that happen and I will never, ever say to someone who has experienced abuse in a relationship, gaslighting and any form of assault that they have manifested that. Ever. People who abuse often find people that they can manipulate and create horrible environments just like a predator going after
Ever. People who abuse often find people that they can manipulate and create horrible environments just like a predator going after
People who abuse often find people that they can manipulate and create horrible environments just like a predator going after it’s prey. People and relationships are complex, psychology is complex and I will never paint something that is individual and complete with a simple broad stroke.
What I mean about manifesting what we want when we work with active manifestation (spellwork, prayers, however you do your magical thing), is allowing yourself the time and space to know clearly what you really want. Knowing yourself is so blinking important.
A wise woman once told me (I am talking about my Mum here) that there are more than one kind of partner you will likely have in your life. There is your first love, your unrequited love (I could write all day about this BS) the love you marry and have kids with and the love you grow old with. They can be the same person but sometimes they are not.
Even knowing what kind of love you want will help eliminate all of the things you don’t want and that is just as important.
If you are looking for love, the next time you begin the journey ask yourself these questions and see if they help. You know I am all about the journaling, so writing it out can be really great.
- What type of relationship do you want?
- What are some of the things you would share as passions and interests?
- What are you looking for in a relationship?
- How does this relationship feel?
Now you know what you want.
Get out of your own way
When people come into your life and it starts to feel like the opposite of all of the things you just wrote about, when the Tarot tells you over and over again to walk away (you can’t ignore that Eight of Cups forever), love yourself enough to do it.
There are of course times when you may find that you are being a little picky or straight up have way too high an expectation for a new romance. I am going to talk about expectations and how they can kill a relationship before it even begins in the next part of this series.
But for now, just being aware of your worth and not accepting the things that are not what you really want out of fear, is a good place to start.
Lay on the Love Questions
So you know you want to find your Knight, King or Queen (or all three) in shining armour but you have no idea how to ask the Tarot for some help hunting the sucker down. I am here to help.
Call me Tarot Cupid.
When it comes to questions and the Tarot, at times I do re-word them for my clients. I will never not answer a question for them, because that is what I am being paid for. But if the question is a closed question, I work a custom spread around it and look at fleshing it out for more information for my Tarot querent.
Of course these are just suggestions. You can change the wording of them if you like or create your own. I do hope you find them helpful.
Closed question – Will I find my soulmate?
Open question – What can I do to bring my soulmate into my life?
Closed question – Am I doomed in love?
Open question – Where are my love blocks and how can I move forward?
Closed question – Is my current love my soulmate?
Open question – How can I get the most out of my current relationship?
Closed question – Will I get married?
Open question – What does the future hold for my romantic love life?
Closed question – Will my ex come back to me?
Open question – Is there any unfinished business between x and y and what needs to be released?
As I mentioned before, I always answer the question asked from my clients. These additional questions help build a more empowered and full narrative and reading for people.
I would love to hear from you.
Fellow Tarot Readers what are some of the most common questions about love that you get? Do you feel as a professional community we talk enough and acknowledge the complexity of relationships?
Tarot people looking for love, what do you ask the cards about your love life? (if you would like to share of course)