14 Mar Is it Rude to Ask for Free Tarot Readings?
Hi Tarot Tribe, it’s Ethony. Today I want to talk about Free Tarot Readings. Before I get started, these are my thoughts, you don’t have to agree with everything or anything I say. If you comment below or reply to comments below, I would really like it if everyone kept it respectful.
As with everything I offer, take what resonates with you and leave the rest.
Free Tarot Reading requests are frequently found in my inbox, IG messages and FB messages. I know I am not alone in this. There are many people in our community who are professional Tarot Readers who experience the same. I am also well aware of how fortunate I am to be a Professional Tarot Reader.
When I say professional Tarot reader, I am not saying that you need a specific certification, or need to be part of a specific organisation. I am defining this as someone who is paid to provide a Tarot Reading service and that this is their main source of income. You can also be a professional part-time Tarot Reader or one that is learning to become a professional and is building their business. A professional Tarot reader does not read Tarot as a hobby, It is a profession that they have worked hard to progress, perfect and constantly learn from.
I have spoken before about reading for family and friends. That is a personal choice everyone must make on their own. I am also not talking about free readings that are swaps or barters. Nor am I talking about scam Tarot Readers (which is a whole different post), or people who say that you have a curse and need to pay them $200 to remove it. They are charlatans and not professional anything but assholes, let alone professional Tarot readers.
There are people in every community that will want something for free. They will ask their friend who is a photographer for free photos. They will ask for free upgrades, free gear or discounts at stores. People love free shit. And while it is true that if you don’t ask, you don’t get, if someone declines your request for something for free, that is their right. If someone asks to be paid for a service or product, then that is their right too. As customers or clients, you have the right to say yes or no.
I have seen people post in multiple Facebook Groups that I am a member of, asking for free readings. They often ask the same question in each group as well, or they ask the same question each time they ask for a free reading. These people are what I call fishers. They are waiting to find the reader who will tell them what they want to hear and will do so for free. The issue with having one of these people as your client is that they rarely convert into paying clients and they will keep coming back with the same questions, over and over again.
In the Tarot Readers Academy Group on Facebook, we have one thread each week for people who want to swap readings. It used to be for free readings as well, but that has changed due to people constantly undervaluing members time, energy and skill. There are a tonne of Free Tarot Reading Groups in FB for people to ask for readings and if that is your jam, then make jam my friend.
There are people who will endlessly say that using your spiritual gifts and charging for them is against some cosmic rule. If that is what you believe and the reality that you want to live in, then you are free to do so. It is your choice and just like your religious beliefs, you can have them, just don’t try to shove them down my throat. Don’t want to charge for your readings? That’s cool. Want to charge for your readings? That is cool too. Isn’t choice great? I mean, I could go on about how a one handed energy exchange is bad karma, but it would be a waste of my time.
My Stance on Free Tarot Readings
When I was learning the Tarot I did Free Readings. When I was beginning to build my business, I did free Tarot readings or practice, and also in exchange for testimonials. I encourage my tarot students to also do free readings for these reasons and to do so for people, who aren’t their friends and family, to build up their skills.
I do not carry out Free Tarot Readings anymore and I haven’t for years.
When I get asked for a Free Tarot Reading, which is usually a message that sounds something like: “can I get a reading from you?” or “can you pull a card for me?” or “I did this reading and it doesn’t make sense. Can you take a look at it?”
These are all requests for free readings.
If they were serious about booking a reading with me, they would have gone to my site and done so. It is pretty easy to find my site and book with me. When I receive these messages, I thank them for contacting me and point them in the direction of my site where they can book with me. Ninety-nine percent of the time I never hear from that person again. They have moved on to someone else.
Sometimes I get the “I can’t afford you” line back from a small percentage of people. I am not sure what people are trying to achieve with this reply. So I usually ignore it. Like dude, I wouldn’t go into Louis Vuitton and say that; I wouldn’t say that to my accountant or lawyer or dentist. I guess people are expecting a discount or a justification for my prices.
It is abundantly clear on my website that Tarot is my profession. I pay taxes on the income that I receive from my readings, coaching, academy and products. This is the way I provide for my family and myself. Money is how I pay for rent, food, clothes, internet, car etc. We do not currently live in a world where you can survive on exposure and good vibes.
Here are the reasons why I do not and will not carry out Free Tarot Readings.
People Rarely Value Freebies
There are a tonne of psychological studies on this. If you want to get into it, you can click HERE to read all about it.
Basically, here is the gist. Are you more likely to gift something to someone that you were given for free? Or something you paid money for? If you get free tickets to an event vs paying $200 for the event, are you likely to say, “Screw it I am not going to the $200 event”? The odds are that you are more likely to go because there is VALUE attached to anything you pay for.
It is so easy to brush off a reading if you have placed no VALUE on it. Don’t like what the reader said or don’t want to admit that you did something to attribute to the situation you are in? Well who gives a shit, you didn’t pay for it. You can just go find someone else who may tell you something different.
My Time is Valuable
This is something that recently came up when talking about those annoying people who add you to Facebook Groups without your permission. URGH, don’t get me started on this again! My sister, who is a PR professional, mentioned that when you do something like this, you are assuming that your time is worth more than the other person. This is what is looks like:
When you are asking for someone to take the time to do something for you for free, you are saying to that person. “Hey, can you spend your time on this thing for me? I, on the other hand, am going to do nothing in exchange and carry on with my life until it is done. You can use your time and skill to do this for me for free, whereas I will invest no time or effort into this exchange.”
On the other hand, when you pay for a service, what you are saying is: “I am paying you (with money I received for my own skill and time, in my own job) for a service which is going to take your time and skill. Thank you.”
Time is the most valuable thing we have.
My Service is Legit
We live in a society that doesn’t exactly see Tarot Readers as legit professionals. We are on the fringe and a little taboo. This is a stigma that most professional Tarot Readers are fighting to change every single day. Friends, colleagues and students of mine struggle to speak out loud that they read the cards professionally because they fear ridicule or, in the extreme, persecution. This is something that is changing, but it can be a subconscious reason why people believe that a Tarot reading is not valuable.
I believe that they are. I pay my Tarot biz mentors and the people I get readings from when I need them.
Your Shit is Important
People go to readers for some pretty life changing shit. Any Tarot reader with a good number of readings under their belt will have stories about serious relationships, businesses, money troubles, mental health issues, health issues and the list goes on.
If you are going to a Tarot Reader and asking about the deepest and most important parts of your life, don’t you think that is worth paying for?
Most people come to Tarot Readers because they have a problem or a need. That need or problem is probably causing a lot of worry or stress; value yourself by valuing the content people are providing you and/or the solution and path forward. Or the breakthrough “ah ha” moment, the healing or the knowledge and security.
Isn’t it worth it?
Would You Ask Your Lawyer?
Would you go to your Lawyer and expect free service?
Would you go to your Dentist and expect them to do everything for free?
Would you go to your Mechanic and ask for a free car service?
Would you ask your Plumber to fix your bathroom for free?
There are very, very few people who would do any of these things, and if they did, they wouldn’t get far. I am not talking about family and friends, again, I am talking about people who don’t know you.
I may not be a lawyer, but I have spent years working on my Tarot reading skills. I have completed training which I have paid for. I have taken complimentary courses to increase my skills as a counsellor, business coach and teacher. I pay for the tools that I need to carry out my work.
My time is valuable. My skills are valuable. I am worthy of being paid for the work that I do. Period.
Honestly, I don’t think people who ask for free Tarot Readings think about this much I hope that by sharing some of my thoughts it sparks people to think about what they are asking for when they do this.
As I mentioned in a paragraph earlier, if you are in dire straits and need a reading, there are a lot of services that can provide that for you. I am not saying that everyone can afford to pay for a Tarot Reading. I shared why I feel it is a little rude to ask a Tarot Professional for a freebie and why I don’t do that.
What do you think? Do you get Free Tarot Reading requests? How do you handle them? Do you think it is flat out rude to ask for a reading for free? I would love to hear your thoughts below. Please keep it classy folks.