Hi, Tarot Bumblebees,
Dating alone is difficult to navigate, but add on that you’re a witch, and now things are REALLY complicated. Witchcraft has so many misconceptions around it that many people tend to stick to their terrible assumptions and go running. I’m here to help you embrace your inner power to avoid losing yourself in your romantic relationship.
I don’t have the answers to everything (#singleAF), but I’m happy to share my tips and words of wisdom that I’ve learned dating as a witch. These are strictly my thoughts and experiences. Remember, as with everything that I share, simply take what resonates with you and leave the rest. For more detailed responses and scenarios, make sure to watch the video.
Get on a dating app
When it comes to your dating profile, there’s a lot to think about – should you out yourself as a witch right away or instead say you’re deeply spiritual? Do you broadcast your zodiac sign? This really all comes down to the vibe you want to give off.
I personally prefer getting to know someone before I introduce them to my craft. Why do I do this when I’m a very public witch? It’s simple; I am who I am no matter my practices or beliefs. They are an aspect of myself. I want someone to look past their preconceived notions and get to know the person that I am. I want them to understand my witchcraft is an extension of me. My craft makes me who I am! When they can see it through that lens, the title “witch” or “witchcraft” won’t be a negative thing for them.
Your beliefs don’t require anyone else’s validation or approval. What it comes down to is respect. If they don’t respect me and my beliefs, then I simply unmatch them and walk away.
In this day and age, I feel like Wicca and Witchcraft have become a lot more well-known. There’s so much more information out there about the craft, so the conversation has become a lot easier. This doesn’t mean that there aren’t a ton of misunderstandings and misconstrued ideas running rampant.
Establish your dealbreakers
These are a few questions you should be asking yourself before you jump into dating. Trust me; you want to know these answers before someone comes into your life :
- How involved do you want your partner to be in your spirituality?
- How accepting do you want them to be?
- Do you want your witchcraft and your own spiritual practice to be separate from your personal relationship?
- Do you want your future partner to go with you to celebrate sabbats or public celebrations?
- Do you want them to just accept it? do you want them to actively support it? or maybe you want them to take an active interest by reading your books and fully understand who you are as a witch?
- If their family is very religious and aren’t accepting, are you going to be happy going into the broom closet every time you see them?
- How important is the craft to you?
- How important do you want it to be in your relationship?
Discovering the craft when you’re in a relationship
Maybe you’re in a committed relationship, or you just started dating someone, and then the calling of witchcraft finds you. Your partner is having trouble accepting it and starts to freak out. The important thing to remember if they’re not accepting of your craft, or in general is witchcraft is a personal practice – you do NOT need anyone’s approval or opinions. It’s also not your place to convert anyone into your way of viewing the world; you’re not going to be able to change people’s minds if they’re set in stone against it. Just accept their opinion as being different than your own. I speak from personal experience; if your partner isn’t 100% okay with your craft, it WILL become a problem down the road.
You may also find that while they first had hesitations, as time goes by and you’ve had a chance to discuss it more or have some time to educate themselves, they become more accepting of your craft. Once that happens, I’d recommend sharing your books, working spaces, or altar with them.
Try to share the significance and connection everything has for you. Share with them how your magic, practice, and craft empower and enrich your life.
If you’re in a situation like this and are still trying to navigate this murky water, I totally understand your struggle. I hope whatever you choose to do that you remain authentic to yourself and your craft. At the end of the day, you’ll find the right person for you if you have patience, faith in yourself, and do not settle for the first person who doesn’t run when you tell them you’re a witch.