My 10 Happiness Secrets aka How I got and stay, Happy

Happiness is a choice for sure. I do believe that in order for you to have a happy life you have to choose it. Even when the shit hits the fan it is how we view it and deal with it that matters. My happiness journey was and still is ongoing. I have been blessed to never have to struggle in a large way with mental illness but I have had some dark periods in my life. So I wanted to share some of the ways in which I find happiness and keep that energy in my life. There is also a little Tarot Spread in there for you all on Happiness.

gratitude-300x2541. Gratitude – Every single day I am filled with gratitude and I choose that outlook on life. Even when things get hard I always remember the good and that everything changes and the hard times will pass. I am filled with joy for my family and my life. I see my son and I light up on the inside that he is here with me and my partner. I am filled with love and gratitude for my boyfriend who loves and supports me in all that I do. I am one lucky lady and I never forget it.

2. Move towards my Goals – I do at least three things a day towards my goals except for at least one day a week where I just hang with family. Or at least try really hard to unplug that day. This means I am accountable for my progress and I feel like I am accomplishing things. When I can tick things off my to do list and see that my efforts are finding fruition that is the best feeling. It also keeps the momentum going which is super important.

The Prince Lenormand Oracle WIP Pic3. Create – It took me moving and starting again but I finally put my hang ups away and got on with creating especially my art. Writing never scared me, painting did. It doesn’t any more. I paint and create for me. It is soul work. I adore it. I am even going to be putting myself more out there when my final paintings are done for the Prince Lenorand Oracle and I want to get them printed! Creating art, writing, cooking and making of all kinds is essential to my happiness.

4. Surrounded myself with amazing community online and off. – Moving country is the hardest when you have exceptional, beautiful people you are leaving. It depressed me then I slowly started making connections in my new home. I have beautiful friends in my life, supportive mothers and incredible soul sisters in business. My Instagram community is the best and I love interacting with everyone there. Yes I still miss my Tribe in Australia but I can also stay connected with them until I see them again.

5. I follow supportive, inspiring people – This is mostly on my social media streams and also what newsletters I subscribe to. I want to be around, read, see and support women who are supporting other women. I want to support any person who is walking their talk and making the world a better place. I am not into following hateful, negative people who tear people down. Here is an example. I used to read Perez Hilton for a while there but then I realised he is full of shit and is a bully. There are many instances I could go into but the final straw for me was when he bartered with Tyra Banks to get his ass on her ANTM. He was going to stop putting pictures of celebrities children on his blog for a month. Not forever like a decent fucking human should but a month. See you later man. He is a father now, I wonder if his mind has been changed.

6. I don’t watch normal tv or the news but I’m not disconnected either – Watching the news to me is like dragging my soul through the mud. I feel horrible afterwards. It’s mostly doom and gloom and straight up bullshit if you watch Fox. So I just don’t do it to myself. I will read what is going on in the world but I am not going to be sitting in front of a TV for hours a day being a zombie. Thanks to Netflix there is NO commercials telling me I am fat, need this pill or that pill or food that is full of crap. No thank you.

7. I give to charities and projects I believe in – I NEED to feel like I am making a difference even if that difference is small. Some of the amazing Kickstarter Campaigns that I have backed really make me smile. We can make a difference! Even if it’s just $5. Here are some of my favourite campaigns that I have backed and this is just one of the places that I donate to.

3-D Ocean Farming – Save Our Seas

Beehives for Community Gardens

Donation Based Music Lessons – because music was probably my saving grace in High School

Project 562: Changing the Way We See Native America

Rainforest Connection – Phones Turned to Forest Guardians

8. Foster good relationship with family as much as possible – Like all relationships they have their ups and downs and boundaries have been tried and tested on more than once occasion over the years but I am happy to say that I like my family and have a good relationship with them.

IMG_25159. Get in Nature - Even though I don’t do this as much as I would like I walk in nature when I can. Getting fresh air every day is super important for me and my little guy. It helps me sleep better when I work out too.

10. Ask for help when I need it – This one has gotten easier over time and I am still not perfect at it but I am getting better. I had to put my pride aside and ask for assistance and it has made my life a lot easier. I also offer assistance when I can to people too, it is all about giving and receiving and having a good flow of energy both ways.

As always I love to have something that has Tarot involved so I have created a Happiness Tarot Spread for you all to have some fun with.

Because I’m Happy Tarot Spread!

Happiness Tarot Spread 1

 

1. Me – My current happiness metre

2. Get Happy – How can I get happier

3. Forces – External Forces – who or what is helping or hindering my happiness

4. Stay Happy – Advice on how to continue this happiness momentum

5. Future – The next 3 months (it’s a process and it requires work so don’t FREAK if if it is a non shiny card)

Blessings

Ethony*

Ostara Spring Fling Tarot Blog Hop

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THEME

The standard Tarot deck is over 500 years old and the cards are very much a product of that time, particularly the Major Arcana and Courts. So I am asking you to consider which cards you think need to be updated, removed or added to reflect our modern society?

Are there any glaring omissions? What is redundant? Which card has you scratching your head wondering where it fits in today? Or do you think that archetypes are so universal that there is still a relevant place for all, be they Hermits, Pages, Knights or Emperors?

Is the Tarot Relevant?

This is such a huge theme that I could very well talk about this for days.

When this was posted my first reaction was to ask, is the Tarot even relevant any more? I mean with all of the huge leaps and bounds that we have made in science, psychology and civilisation how is there still a place for something that seems completely far out for a lot of people. People often refer to the Tarot as woo woo (a phrase which grinds my gears when ever I hear it) but it is far from taboo. The Tarot is deeply ingrained in our culture. When people like Kanye West admit to getting Tarot readings you know that the Tarot has permeated into mainstream. Even so there is still mystery to the Tarot and everyone loves a good mystery.

Tarot and Pop Culture

Here are a few examples that I have seen of the Tarot being featured in pop culture.

jane-the-virginMost recently I have seen the Tarot used in the awesome comedy Jane the Virgin (if you aren’t watching this you should be it’s so great). One of the main character’s mother Magdna is shown in a few of the first episodes with the Tarot and they reference what she sees in the cards and her obsession with it. I couldn’t find a picture to show you but trust me they are there.

PennyDreadfulTarotFBPenny Dreadful features the Tarot heavily as the beautiful and troubled Vanessa Ives (exquisitely played by Eva Green, I mean can she be anymore beautiful?) reads the cards and has her own deck.

wpid-penny-dreadful-cardsShowtime even used this deck heavily in promoting the show and you can buy a copy at their online store and also get an online Tarot reading with the cards. Very clever marketing. I personally have not connected to this deck but many of my friends have.

3._woee_10182012_fn_0317.jpgAnother TV Show to feature the Tarot was the CW’s, The Witches of East End which was sadly cancelled after two seasons. In the show Joanna and Wendy cast the cards for their fellow Witches and family on many occasions, helping shed light on situations and give them warnings of what was to come. The deck was custom made for the series and had additions such as The Owl, The Cloak and The Imposter cards included into the deck.

In Disney’s 2009 release of The Princess and The Frog we see the villain (yeah I know he is the bad guy but it is still cool) Dr. Facilier tempt and woo the young Prince and his lowly entourage into making a deal using his Tarot deck and his Friends on the other Side.

Also in 2009 Prada, yes Prada created a Tarot deck. I don’t even want to think about how much this deck is worth now.

If one of the biggest fashion houses in the world and DISNEY is featuring the Tarot in their products you know that it is mainstream.

Mary K. Greer has an excellent list of Tarot in TV & Movies that is much longer than my few offerings. 

So is the Tarot relevant anymore? I believe it is, it looks like the Tarot is here to stay and is getting more and more exposure and attention. You can’t open social Apps like Instagram without seeing crazy popular Tarot decks like The Wild Unknown and The Star Child Tarot everywhere!

The Tarot is no longer hidden in dark lit back rooms with beaded curtains. It is on our TV’s,  in our magazines, on our clothing and I for one am super happy about that.

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Thank you to Ania for organising this Seasons Blog post and for picking a kick ass theme.

Ostara Tarot Spread EthonyDid you miss my Ostara Tarot Spread? Check it out here.

Ostara Tarot Spread

A little Ostara Treat for you all.

I wanted to get this one out early to give everyone some preparation time before the Equinox on the 20th.

Ostara Tarot Spread Ethony

1. Balance – What do I need to balance or what needs balance in my life?

2. Growth – What do I need to grow, where do I need to spend my time and energy?

3. Regeneration – What is coming back to me soon?

4. Fertility – What energies are in abundance around me right now?

5. Potential – How can I harness the equinox’s energy to my benefit?

I can’t wait to see everyone’s Tarot Spreads for this Sabbat. I am for sure going to be casting some cards on the 20th of March.

Blessings

Ethony*

Ostara and Mabon

The Symbols of The Star

This week in the Tarot Readers Academy, Tarot Cafe Video I am exploring some of the Major Symbols found in the Major Arcana card of The Star.

The Rider-Waite Smith is rich with Symbols, which can assist you with learning the meaning and connecting to the card in a deeper way.

I hope you enjoy this weeks video.

 

Tarot Decks Used in this Video

Radiant Rider Waite Deck

The Cosmic Tarot

The Truth Seeker’s Tarot

The Bonefire Tarot

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Tarot Deck Exploration – The Starchild Tarot

The Starchild Tarot Bammer

Title: The Starchild Tarot

Creator: Danielle Noel

Publisher: Self Published

Format: 78 Cards and Guidebook

Language: English

Size of Cards: 12.5cm x 8.5cm

What You Get: 78 Cards, 146 page guidebook and keepsake box


The Starchild Tarot ReadingImpressions
: If you follow me on any social media you will know that I am slightly in love with this deck. I have been doing all of my Tarot Readings with this deck since I received it last week and I just adore reading with them.

They are a photography and digital art Tarot deck with beautiful pastel colourings and stunning sacred geometry images. It is a very feminine deck but there are also guys in there too.

I find it hard to do the cards justice with my description so check out the images. They do all the bragging they need.

There are some changed Major Arcana cards from the more traditional Tarot Decks.

Changed Major Arcana Cards:

  • The Fool is Starseed
  • The Hermit is Serenity
  • The Hanged Man is Perspective
  • Death is Transformation
  • The Devil is Oppression
  • Judgement is Awakening

In this Tarot Deck Justice is number 8 and Strength is number 11.

The Star Child TarotThe Guidebook is a nice size and has a STACK of information in it which as also been written by Danielle. She gives a good introduction to the Tarot and most importantly the deck. These cards have a wonderful vibration and her writing complements that greatly. There are also some Tarot spreads to try as well as the Card descriptions. I love that she wrote 8 pages on helping you understand her cards. The writing really asks you to engage with the deck and your readings.

The card stock is beautiful and the finish makes the cards lovely to shuffle, even if they are larger than the standard Tarot Deck. I like that they are bigger as there is a lot more I can take in with the images. The backs of the Tarot cards have a stunning sacred geometry pattern.

This deck may be a little tricky for beginners as there are a number of cards that do not have any figures in them along with the Major Arcana has been changed for some of the cards. If you learn with this deck you may be referencing the book a lot. Which is most than fine.

I am so enjoying working with the StarChild Tarot and I will be using it a lot. I recommend this deck to anyone who wants to connect with this beautiful set of images.

Where to Purchase Your Copy: At the Starchild Tarot’s Website

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The Starchild Tarot Major Arcana

Breaking Bad and the Archetypes of the Major Arcana

BreakingBadJust before our son was born J-Guy and I watched the entire series of Breaking Bad. We were late to the party, we know.

I have to say that Breaking Bad is probably the best television show I have ever seen. The acting is incredible.

The characters were excellent which made me link them to a new course that I am developing about the Major Arcana and our personal Archetypes and the Archetypes of the Breaking Bad characters popped into my mind. Now these are my reflections on the characters based the Major Arcana and what cards I feel suit them the most. Like most people and well written characters of any series they can have more than one Archetype but these are the ones that stood out most for me.

***Spoilers Below*** If you have not watched the show and do not want to know what happens to these characters for the love of Great TV LOOK AWAY NOW!

Breaking Tarot Archetypes

Saul – The Moon

Saul the Moon

Shady bitch, fast talking, illusionist. He reminds me of a slight of hand magician where he is making you look one way while picking your pocket. The only thing that Saul cares about is Saul and his money. While this is not really linked to the Moon his illusions are. Those illusions are the words he weaves for people and that they believe often enough and the law. It is like he hides behind both of those things and he is just smokes and mirrors. I predicted that he would survive Walt when we were watching season 4 and I was right.

Jesse – The Devil

Jesse the Devil

Art by – http://p1xer.deviantart.com/art/Breaking-Bad-Jesse-Pinkman-361308735

Jesse simply can not cope with being on this material plane and his addictions (drugs, booze, destructive behavior and relationships) are so directly tied to The Devil. The Devil speaks to being chained to our addictions, behaviors and beliefs that are harmful and a whole lot of excess and indulgence. What is sad about Jesse is that if he was living a different life he may actually be able to be a functioning adult but his involvement with the drug world keeps pulling him in deeper into depression and addiction. I don’t think I am alone in wanting to give him a hug sometimes and then a slap across the face five seconds later because of his complete stubbornness. He lives by his own moral code which he finds is always being challenged by the choices he makes, hence the conflict. Just when you think he is going to get on the straight and narrow his inner demons which keep telling him he is not worthy of anything good drag him back in. Do you think that he would change his life after his liberation at the end of the series? We can only hope.

Walter – The Tower

Walt the Tower

The total destruction of Walt’s life is how the entire series started and he has been keeping what he has rebuilt up with gaffer tape ever since, well what he could salvage anyway. He lost his health, job, wife and nearly his family and his life a number of times and then the ultimate loss his life (well so we think). The Tower is that total destruction to the core of who we are and the bare foundations of our lives. What is really interesting for Walt is that in a lot of ways he learnt throughout the series who he really is, a gift of The Tower Card. He repressed so much of who he is that when he started to become Heisenberg is allowed that side of him to come out and play and that side is slowly taking complete control. He is living the ultimate ‘what would you do if you had a death sentence’ which sadly a lot of people never do because their towers never crumble. (Not that anyone should need something as sad and devastating as cancer to reevaluate their lives, but often it takes something huge). I predicted before we watched the last season that he was going to be dead by the end of season 5, or at least the last episode. I was right….or so I think.

Skyler – The Empress

Skyler The Empress

I really, really disliked Skyler for a long time and at the end of season 4 I started to like her. Mostly because she is allowing Walt to see his daughter and son.  Skyler is very much the Mother Archetype everything that she did was actually for her family, which was the veil that Walt tried to project for a long time.

Marie – The Fool

Marie the Fool

Marie has her head in the CLOUDS and doesn’t know how to deal with anything when things get real. From shoplifting, her purple OCD and her ability to block out reality is why I have assigned her the Fool. It is a little heartbreaking to watch her really try and be Hanks cheer leader and see him completely stomp on her for it. She was my least favourite character in the series. So I am not really going to say more.

Hank – The Hierophant

Hank the Hierophant

Hank had a really interesting ride. He really embodies the social organisations and institutions of The Heirohpant for me. His entire identity is tied to the DEA and his work so when he looses all of it he is broken and more than just what the bullet wounds did to him. There are wonderful aspects to the Hierohpant and Hank took so much pride in his job and being ‘that person’ in his team and for his family, essentially his projection that when it was starting to fall apart he ignored it until he had his own Tower moment. He has now moved to the Hermit, withdrawing completely from everyone and everything he has and is now slightly obsessed with rocks… I mean minerals. I actually feel for Marie. Hank even dies by the rules of The Hierophant.

Any other fans of the series have thoughts on my choices?

Blessings

Ethony*

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Tarot Activity – Interviewing A Tarot Card

This week for the Tarot Readers Academy Tarot Cafe episode I am sharing a fun activity that you can do to get to know the tarot cards in a new way.

It is a pretty groovy exercise and I have created a Worksheet for you to download so that you can record your interviews and have the question prompts all in one place.

This activity is a little sample of some of the types of Tarot Activities that will be available in the Tarot Readers Academy Tarot Apprentice Course.

So let’s get to it!

Interviewing The Figures or Animals in a Tarot Card to Deepen Your Understanding

The Interviewing a Tarot Card Worksheet – Click on the Link Below to Download.

Interview Your Tarot Card Figures

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My Mythicworlds Experience and Judgement

Mythicworlds

The weekend past my little family and I travelled south to Seattle to attend MythicWorlds the FaerieWorlds Convention on the West Coast.

I didn’t know what to expect. I had been to Faeriewords before but I had not been to a Convention before or knew how Faerieworlds may translate in a hotel.

The total cream, cherry, chocolate sauce and sprinkles on the top was that my friends from Australia were in the states and attending as well. It has been nearly two years since I have been able to spend time with a coven sister. Well over due. It was a rather last minuet decision to go for us but Lee sealed the deal when she said she was attending.

Friday was the normal long wait at the border crossing drive through Seattle drag. Our little guy did well but as expected when you travel with a baby you need to stop a few times.

I made a new friend from Mythmakers and I hope we stay in touch.

There was a ball on Friday but we left early tired from the travel.

Saturday morning I went to Orion Goxwoods The Witch and the Fae workshop which was great and gave me a lot to contemplate. Some inspiration was had for additional goodness for my Fae workshop in April. I was reminded to connect to breath more and enjoyed his frank southern honesty about his passions.

Witchlings Oracle DeckWe must have walked through the market place at least a dozen times but I made only one purchase. I don’t need a lot I have a lot of stuff but I did add the Witchlings oracle to my collection.

While my beautiful man was off spending some time exploring I watched a great free presentation by Gabby Bernstein while Dominic fed and napped. I designed a Tarot Spread for myself and did a quick reading. After those two things I felt very filled with energy and love.

Saturday night I stayed up longer and watched the musical acts Zirp and Delhi 2 Dublin both where so great! Check out their music if you get a chance. I retired early with out little one.

Sunday I went to the only workshop that I was able to make with Einar Selvik. If you don’t know this gentleman and his work CHECK OUT HIS SITE. If you watch the show Vikings you will recognise the music and his work on Graphical and Oral Magic of his peoples is incredible. I was lucky enough to be spoken to about Runes and Magic by someone who walks their talk and is deeply passionate about it. And also a self proclaimed nerd. So all round awesome guy and great workshop. It has made me rethink everything I thought I knew about the Runes. Which is a good thing.

Then it was time to say goodbye to my Friends and we headed back to Canada.

The one thing I wish I had done more of were the workshops. Especially the two I missed with Einar Selvik. Maybe I will get another chance another year. I also didn’t take too many photos which is rare for me but I enjoyed being more present this year because of it.

Also the double tree hotel was amazing. The staff were fantastic and you get free chocolate chip cookies that are warm on arrival. Big rooms nice beds and showers. I would stay there again for sure!

Here is something I hope you stayed to the end of this post to read because it is SUPER Important to me.

JUDGEMENT AT EVENTS AND IN LIFE

At dinner that night before the second ball (Saturday night) we were at the resturant at the hotel having dinner and there was a man sitting in the lounge next to it talking very loudly about how being around the convention people made him uncomfortable. People at a lot of conventions well most deck themselves out in amazing cosplay. I’m not sure he had ever seen one before or he sure wasn’t acting like it or he was just a massive jerk.

He was saying some really negative horrible things, laughing at people, saying that people with children should know better than to dress up and participate in things like this and getting other people not at a part of the convention into his conversation. Most people just didn’t say much but still. I realise that this was his way of trying to rid himself of the uncomfortable feelings he had but by passing them on to others he allowed the negativity to continue. He could have just admitted that it was not his thing and thats it.

I wish I had said what I am about to say now to him. Not in a voice of anger but understanding.

Dear Self proclaimed normal business man who was at the Seattle DoubleTree hotel on the weekend.

Many many people feel that conventions and events like FaerieWorlds, MythicWorlds, ComicCon, Burning Man etc are the ONLY place they can be themselves fully. Where they are surrounded by tribe. Where they feel safe to express themselves in how they want to dress and how they want to express their energy through dance, hulla hopping etc.
Some people travel great distances and wait months and months for those connections with people and experiences that they can deeply resonate with.

So the next time you judge someone on a train station platform in a Anime cosplay or bag out someone for being awesomely different maybe take a bit of time to think that while they may invoke in you a feeling of momentary uncomfortableness for you that same person may feel uncomfortable all the time outside of those places and spaces. At school, at home, at work, with certain friends and family. Imagine feeling that way most of the time?

So don’t be an asshole. Don’t be that asshole. Allow people to be who they want to be no one is forcing your to dress up or be involved. If you haven’t got anything nice to say shut up. Reflect before you project on to others.

That is my little rant and thank you for allowing me to have it. There is enough negativity and pressure in the world for people to conform. Lets be cool with everyone being themselves. Maybe, just maybe the world would be a happier, better place.

Blessings

Ethony*

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My Favourite Tarot Card

As Tarot readers and students we tent to gravitate towards certain cards throughout our journey. Sometimes we have a life experience that connects us to the card in a deep and profound way. Other times we love the image of a card so much that it quickly becomes out favourite.

In this weeks episode of the Tarot Readers Academy – Tarot Cafe I explore my current favourite Tarot Card and why it has been on my mind for quite some time now.

I would love to hear from you, what is your favourite Tarot Card? Has it changed over the years?

Blessings

Ethony*

Fear Releasing Tarot Spread

Are you stuck and not sure why?

There are times in life when we get ourselves stuck. When we are unsure of what to do next. Usually there is a fear that we have deep down that is keeping us for moving forward or doing what we have to do. Even if we know it is for our benefit.

I myself have been on the fear train a bit about putting myself out there. As an extrovert you would think that would come easy to me but I am also a perfectionist so if it is not PERFECT and by perfect I mean impossible to obtain perfection kind of perfect I usually don’t do it. Which is completely counter productive.

So I created a Fear Releasing Tarot Spread to see why the HECK was up with my subconscious and wanted to share it with you all.

The Fear Releasing Tarot Spread

Fear Releasing Tarot Spread

1. Why am I afraid?

2. What can I do to confront my fear?

3. What can I do to release my fear?

4. What can I replace my fear with?

5. What is my next step forward?

My Reading

I got in the Tarot Reading Zone today and did the reading for myself. Some of the cards that I got weren’t a big surprise but others totally shocked me.

Especially the third position card. The Devil? Say what now!

1. Why am I afraid? – Nine of Wands – To me this calls for me to get over the fact that what I want to do may all be for naught. Having a self defeating attitude before I begin is really going to cramp my mojo and get me exactly NO WHERE.

2. What can I do to confront my fear? – Seven of Pentacles – Take stock and realise that I have come a long way already and while I still have a long way to go, as everything in life is a work in progress I have achieved a lot and to just keep taking one step at a time.

Fear Tarot Reading3. What can I do to release my fear? – The Devil – As someone pointed out to me years ago, the Devil backwards is Lived. Maybe I need to enjoy life a little more and stop getting on my own back about my high to do list and my duties as a mother. Some self care maybe? Oh and maybe I need to stop with the retail therapy. 

4. What can I replace my fear with? – Seven of Cups – This speaks to me about manifesting through creative visualisations and day dreams. Not only that, I need to be aware of where my energy is going and what thoughts I am entertaining. I have the power to choose my reality. 

5. What is my next step forward? – King of Pentacles – Work with the King of Pentacles energy and archetype. He is the successful businessman and is also disciplined and practical. A good reminder to ground myself if I am ever feeling like the fear is crawling back.

So that was my reading. I would love to see how this works for you all.

Blessings

Ethony*

Tarot Deck Used: The Mini Rider Waite Tarot